so after wiping the tears out of my eyes and off my cheeks and examining what's left of my make-up (asking myself why i am so determined to be a minimalist and why can't i be one of those high maintenance types who always carries her make-up bag with her) in the women's bathroom of my office, trying to make myself look like i wasn't just crying and armed with the excuse "it's just allergies; i was NOT crying", i head back to my office.
gah! i hate days like this.
ironically, i sit down and click on penelope trunk's blog - brazen careerist - and read this:
"5. Don’t cry at work
Newsflash. Women cry a lot and men don’t. So let’s just stop telling women to be men at work. No point. People who do best in their careers are people who are their true selves.
And, I have first-hand research on this topic, because I have cried at all levels of my career. To be fair, I cry mostly when I have PMS. But whatever. PMS is just your body telling your brain that you need to start crying about the stuff that you've been ignoring all month.
Here’s the big secret about crying though. Men who are secure with themselves and their position in the world actually deal with women crying just fine. So any guy at work who cannot deal with you crying needs to get some therapy in order to be more self-assured. You, on the other hand, are doing just fine with those workplace tears."
full blog here
thanks, P! i needed that.